Because you are emotionally dependent on someone, you leave your life decisions to them. You
have
no
control
over your own life.
Your life is reprogrammed and led by the dependee's decisions. One of the root causes may be
to
please the dependee to prevent the dependee from leaving.
Emotionally dependent people have extremely low self-esteem(due to their circumstances) which
leads
to a
greater need for support and affection.
you might go to great lengths to gain approval or to develop a sense of self.
Because that feeling of
acceptance
builds self-esteem but at the cost of a stable sense of self.
As emotionally dependent people have low self-esteem and view themselves negatively, they
naturally
have
a
hard time setting any boundaries around them.
This is because they fear that
...
people will stop liking them if they try to
establish
or
maintain a boundary.
When they meet with something uncomfortable, they don't know how to say no.
And
when
they
get stepped all over on and become a doormat or offered any crumbs, they will just
accept
it.
Emotionally dependent people have noticeable changes in the way they are and act. They can duplicate the dependee's way of lifestyle to please and satisfy the dependee to convince him/her to stay with the dependent.
Even if there's a lot of evidence present, The dependant will refuse to acknowledge or admit their significant other shortcomings. The main reason? Because they can’t or don’t want to move on without the dependee.